The Art of Setting Boundaries Part Two

Dear Beautiful Soul,
As promised, we’re continuing the sacred conversation we began last week—one that is close to my heart and essential for your healing.

In Part One was about recognizing the importance of boundaries, then Part Two is about what happens next—the emotions, the discomfort, the healing, and the breakthroughs that come with actually living your boundaries.

Because here’s the truth no one talks about enough:
Setting boundaries can be messy. It can stir up guilt. It can trigger fear. It can feel lonely.

But it’s also one of the most courageous, loving things you will ever do for yourself.

When Guilt Shows Up
Let me reassure you… guilt doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.
It often means you’re doing something new.
When you begin to say no, or pull back from people-pleasing, or stop absorbing everyone else’s pain—your old programming will protest. You may hear that inner voice say:
* “You’re being selfish.”
* “They won’t like you anymore.”
* “You’re supposed to help everyone.”

But guilt is not your guide. Your peace is.

Healing Practice:
When guilt arises, pause. Breathe. Place your hand on your heart and whisper:
“I am still a good person. I am still loving.
And I am allowed to care for myself.”

Journaling Prompt:
Where has guilt stopped you from honoring your truth?
What would shift if you no longer let guilt lead?

Affirmation:
“I can be loving and still say no. My needs are sacred.”

When Others Resist Your Boundaries
Here’s something I’ve learned after decades of healing and coaching:

People who benefited from your lack of boundaries may not celebrate your decision to change.

They might try to guilt you. Question your choices. Make you feel like you’re the problem.

But remember: you are not responsible for other people’s comfort with your growth.

Reflection:
Who in your life struggles with your boundaries?
Can you hold your truth with love—even when others don’t understand?

Spiritual Reminder:
You are not abandoning others. You are returning to yourself.

Affirmation:
“I do not need to shrink to be loved. I can be clear, kind, and strong.”

Spiritual Reset After Boundary-Setting
After a hard boundary is set, you might feel like your energy is scattered. That’s completely normal.

Try this:
Spiritual Reset Ritual:
* Close your eyes and imagine all the places your energy went today—conversations, decisions, tension.
* Breathe deeply and say:

“I call my energy back to me—cleansed, protected, and restored.”
* Envision a shield of white light forming around you. Say:

“Only love may enter. All else is released.”

Journaling Prompt:
How can you create a daily ritual to protect and restore your energy?

Affirmation:
“I reclaim my energy. I protect my peace. I am safe within myself.”

The Gift of Self-Compassion
You will not always get it right. You’ll slip. You’ll overextend. You’ll second-guess. That’s okay. Self-compassion is the boundary you create between yourself and perfectionism. It allows you to grow, evolve, and try again without shame.

Affirmation:
“I offer myself grace. I am doing the best I can. I am proud of my growth.”

Want to Go Deeper?
If you’re loving this journey, my books are here to support your next steps:

Help Me, I Am Not Crazy, They Are
Understand how to identify and protect your energy from toxic, draining, or manipulative people. This book is your map to navigating emotional entanglement with grace and spiritual power.

Awaken Your Best Self with Affirmations
Speak life into your healing journey. This book includes affirmations for boundaries, emotional healing, forgiveness, and spiritual empowerment—perfect as a daily guide. Both are available on Amazon. They’re written from my heart to yours.

Stay tune for next week Part 3 of Setting Boundaries with people we love

With love, light and healing xoxox
Barbara
The Spiritual Warrior Coach
www.barbarasavin.com