The Art of Setting Boundaries Part One

Dear Beautiful Souls,

I hope this message finds you surrounded by love and light and guides you toward a deeper understanding of yourself.

I want to begin this letter by sharing something from my heart.

There was a time in my life—especially early in my healing journey—when I believed that being a “good person” meant always being available. I said yes when I was exhausted, gave when my well was dry, and smiled through the discomfort just to avoid conflict. Maybe you’ve been there too.

It wasn’t until Spirit whispered to me—“You cannot give from an empty cup”—that I realized something had to change. That moment became the beginning of a powerful, sacred truth I now live by.

Boundaries are not selfish. They are spiritual.

In this week’s newsletter, I guide you through the healing art of setting soulful boundaries. Not the kind that push people away—but the kind that bring you home to yourself.

Why Boundaries Are Sacred

I’ll walk you through how boundaries became the key to healing my exhaustion and remembering my worth. We explore how they act as the guardians of your peace and purpose.

Strategy:Think of your energy as a beautiful garden. You get to decide what gets planted, what gets pruned, and what needs to be kept out. Boundaries are your sacred fence.

Many of us have experienced moments when we poured so much of our energy, time, and love into others—family, friends, clients, or even strangers—that we lost sight of our own needs. You might have stayed up late to comfort someone, said "yes" when you were completely depleted, or pushed through your own pain just to be strong for others. At first, it may feel noble or even necessary. But over time, it can lead to emotional exhaustion, resentment, or even physical illness.

Self-neglect often creeps in quietly—hidden behind good intentions, a giving heart, or a fear of being seen as selfish. But the truth is, when you give from an empty cup, no one truly receives your best.

So ask yourself: Was there a time you gave so much that your light started to dim? And how did you begin to find your way back to yourself?

Here is an Affirmation:“ My boundaries are acts of love. They protect the sacred garden of my soul.”

Signs You Need Stronger Boundaries

If you’re unsure whether you need stronger boundaries, you’ll recognize yourself in the stories I share.

Pay attention to feelings of resentment, guilt, and burnout. These are spiritual signals—your soul’s way of asking for protection.

Ask yourself:Where in your life are you absorbing burdens that aren’t yours?

Here is an Affirmation:“I honor my energy. I release what is not mine. I return to my truth.”

Here Are Soulful Boundaries in 5 Simple Steps to Speaking Your Truth Without Shame or Fear.

5 Steps:

1. Clarity – Where do you feel drained?

2. Permission – Give yourself full permission to protect your peace.

3. Communication – Use “I” statements.

4. Consistency – Keep your boundary, even if it’s hard.

5. Compassion – Be kind to yourself as you learn.

   
   

Practice this today: Write one boundary you want to set. Practice how you’d say it out loud.

Here is an Affirmation:“I am allowed to ask for what I need. My boundaries are bridges, not walls.”

“My voice is powerful. My truth is sacred. I communicate with love and clarity."

Energy Boundaries & Spiritual Tools

Spiritual Practice:Visualize yourself surrounded in Divine White Light. Say, “Only love and truth may enter. All else dissolves in light.”

Here is an Affirmation:“I am divinely protected. My energy is my own. I live in light.”

If this newsletter resonates with your heart, my books will help you go further:

1. Help Me, I Am Not Crazy, They Are – Identify and protect your energy from draining people. This empowering guide helps readers identify and manage 23 different types of energy-draining personalities—from the Narcissist and the Guilt-Tripper to the Talker and the Drama Queen. Each chapter includes real-life examples, boundary-setting tools, affirmations, and coaching-style journal prompts. It’s written in a compassionate, relatable voice that makes readers feel understood and supported.

2. Awaken Your Best Self with Affirmations – Heal your mind and emotions with daily support.  This book is a beautifully organized collection of daily affirmations for emotional healing, confidence, and spiritual growth. Topics include abundance, boundaries, forgiveness, self-worth, and intuitive development. Use it as a daily practice, a source of comfort, or an inspiring gift. It’s a favorite among those looking to shift negative thought patterns and awaken their highest potential.

Find both on Amazon. I truly hope they bring you clarity and peace.

Next Week Part 2 of Mastering the Art of Setting Boundaries

With love, light and healing xoxoxBarbara

The Spiritual Warrior Coach

www.barbarasavin.com